Do you keep thinking that Prince Charming will knock on your door, only to be met by the takeaway delivery man?
Is your idea of an action-packed evening a night on the couch watching the soaps with a tub of ice cream?
Don’t’ give up on love just yet … Ireland’s Modern Matchmaker Avril Mulcahy is here to help!
Cashel-native Avril’s new book ‘Go Get Him: Everything You Need to Know to Create the Love You Want’ offers a straight talking, no-nonsense approach to dating. Avril dispels the myths, inspiring women to break their bad dating habits and negative attitudes that are holding them back from finding Mr. Right.
“People think if they get married, buy a house, and have kids and the dog that it means happiness. It doesn’t … society has changed! Nowadays women have more objectives and goals, and it can be really tough out there to manage it all. Look at the amount of couples who are pretending to be happy,” the matchmaker extraordinaire told South Tipp Today.
Avril said “there has never been so much choice” out there and encourages single ladies to “stop faffing around and start dating”. She explained: “You don’t have to put all your eggs in one basket anymore. You can leave the person you’re with or get another date …it’s that simple”.
The amount of people “online dating” has increased significantly in recent times. The gorgeous Avril said it’s a “fantastic” way to meet someone, but has her reservations. “In a couple of clicks you can be connecting with people online. You don’t need to go outside your door to find a date. My problem with it is that some people are addicted to online dating and social media. The amount of time their putting into the online part isn’t comparative to the amount of time their going on dates. The whole idea of online dating is to get offline; that’s the key message. The offline is better than the online. People are forgetting to go on dates and meet the person in the flesh”.
But how do you make yourself stand out from the crowd online in order to get that all important date? The former Rockwell student explained: “You must create a killer online profile. Online dating is visual; the person hasn’t met you yet. People are putting up awful photos. It’s about putting your best foot forward. Ask your friends how you look in a photo and describe yourself in a positive mind-set. Ask yourself ‘how would I dress going on a date?’ Build an attraction. Your photo has to show that you’re confident, fun, positive and sexy. Tick as many of these attributes as possible. Nobody wants to go on a date with a misery guts”.
The stunning Avril said it’s essential to create opportunities to meet men. “It doesn’t just have to be online networks. Going to a matchmaker or a singles event where you could meet 20 guys in one night; a friend could set you up on a blind date or bring you to her work party where you meet all the guys there. You could casually tell a guy you like that you’re going to the local pub with friends and ask him to come along. The more opportunities you create the better chance you have of finding love.
“Men love sport. When Tipperary are playing, make sure you’re at the game or in the pub afterwards. Position yourself in front of men”.
Avril also said multi-level dating (dating more than one man at the same time) can help you weed out the duds and find the man of your dreams. “I know from my friends and clients that some girls are waiting around for a text from this one guy, He doesn’t warrant all that attention. He needs to ask you out again and again, and prove his worth to you. Keep dating other guys.
“If you find that you have been doing a lot of destructive dating, pull yourself back and ask yourself where you are in your dating life. Sometimes you’ll see patterns that you may need to address. Be mindful of your habits.
“My book is a bit bold but brutally honest. Take control of your life; get off the couch and start dating using a three-stage strategy: Get Ready-Get Set-Go!”
‘Go Get Him!: Everything you need to know to create the love you want’ is available in all bookshops for €12.99. Visit avrilmulcahy.com for more information on the services she provides.