There is one defining factor that creates “Healing” more than any other, and that is taking Personal Responsibility for what happens to you.
One of the single most important words in the English language is Responsibility. Why? Because most of the problems we experience in life are because we fail to take Personal Responsibility. We are a country of people who seem to believe that problems are always someone else.
Accepting responsibility for your actions and your own life is one of the most important aspects of Personal Development. Anyone can graciously accept success, and all the good stuff, but it takes ongoing hard work to cope with problems and failures and still battle on. Every day I am still trying to battle on.
In the old days words like sin and Satan had a moral certitude, today they are replaced with self-harm, jargon words like dysfunction and antisocial behaviour, discouraging any responsibility for one’s actions.... Freedom makes a huge requirement of every human being. With Freedom comes Responsibility. For the person who is unwilling to grow up and carry its own weight, I think it’s a frightening prospect.
Now don’t for one minute get me wrong, there is nothing more painful in life than to look at your own trouble, and know that, you, yourself, no one else made it. When you start taking your life in your own hands – Guess what happens? A terrible thing! No one to blame!! When you blame others, you give up the power to change.
I think we sometimes fail to remember that God gave us two ends - One to sit on, and one to think with. Success will depend on which end you use. Heads you win, tails you lose!
Did you ever wonder why people often have self esteem problems? I’d say one of the reasons is because they don’t take Personal Responsibility for their lives. Instead someone else is to blame for all the bad things that happened, and so a victim mentality is created and empowered.
We seem to forget that Personal Responsibility is an obligation to oneself. It is your individual duty to ensure your good character, and behaviour, irrespective of how you were brought up, and what kind of conditioning you have received. Would you agree that if we want children to keep their feet on the ground, put some responsibility on their shoulders?
In actual fact think about it! What would happen if you began taking Personal Responsibility? Because you can’t complain about something ‘you’ are not willing to change. And did you ever consider what would happen if we rejected the idea that every time a law is broken, society is guilty rather than the lawbreaker??
‘NO ALIBI WILL SAVE YOU FROM ACCEPTING THE RESPONSIBILTY!!’
June Molony can be contacted on 087 9352773.